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Sergio Cerrillo
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Posted - Apr 27 2012 :  1:59:46 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
A friend of mine and I were talking, and she said that when a man see's a girl exclusively and she happens to be younger than he is, it is okay. But if a girl is older than a man, then it is weird and not right. I still don't understand why, and I hope to get some more opinions.

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Alex Artzer
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Posted - Apr 27 2012 :  2:22:46 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Personally, I don't think age matters at all. Age is just a number, and I think there are other factors contribute to making a relationship a good relationship. I would argue that it is more about emotional maturity, where each person is in his or her own life journey, and what each person wants out of the relationship.

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Monica Daly
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Posted - Apr 27 2012 :  2:50:32 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I agree with Alex. Age is just a number. The sort of relationship you're describing, Sergio, might not have been accepted in the "olden days," but I think that now it's more acceptable. We have the terms "sugar daddy" and "cradle robber" to describe older men who are with younger women, but look at the new term "cougar." This sort of relationship is now looked on by some of our generation as a fantasy—almost like a threesome. All in all, what matters isn't the age of the person you are with, but whether you connect with him or her emotionally.

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Sergio Cerrillo
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Posted - Apr 29 2012 :  8:04:09 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I definitely agree with both of you. I guess it is hard to understand at points. At our age and being in a college setting we are able to not care about age and look for a more in-depth relationship. But I know when I was in high school, dating someone younger or older than you was the craziest thing ever. Is it our maturity level that changes everything?
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Alex Artzer
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Posted - Apr 30 2012 :  11:23:22 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
It is your emotional maturity level, I think, and also what you are looking to get out of life. To explain, without getting too personal, I'm in a relationship with someone who is older than I am (by more than just a 'couple' of years) and it can be very difficult. I think that it is not only about the level of emotional maturity, but as I said, where we are in our own personal life journey. Being 23, I am still at the stage at which I'm seeking adventure, and I don't know where I want to end up (location, career, children, etc.), which makes it hard to date someone who is older than I am. These things could end a relationship, but I don't think it is necessarily the difference in age. I think it has to do with we have accomplished in life and what we hope to accomplish in the future. Sure, age plays a role in where a person is "at" in his or her life, but it is just a number, and these other factors play larger roles, I think.

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Kyle Norman
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Posted - May 03 2012 :  2:56:38 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I don't see anything wrong with age differentials with a older male dating a younger female or an older female dating a younger male. I honestly have no clue why it seems more socially acceptable for an older man to date a younger woman. Personally, I would prefer to abstain from significant age difference in relationships because I feel relationships require enough hard work already that throwing in another variable, such as a generation gap, is likely to put even more strain on the relationship. But if a couple can make it work, more power to them!

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Sergio Cerrillo
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Posted - May 04 2012 :  06:50:57 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm glad I to see so many positive responses on this topic. I'll be honest. I posted this because I am starting to see someone who is a few years younger than I. I was very hesitant with her not only for my personal reasons, but for her as well. I guess that being older than she is, I was worried about her maturity level because I have had problems with girls and normally it is their maturity level that is in question. I have also dated girls than I am, and even then I've found myself at times acting more maturely than they did.

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