Parents, Friends & Family
Welcome to the Northern Colorado family! As soon as your student was admitted to the university, you became a part of the campus community too. We hope to partner with families to help students be successful college students. Before your student even sets foot on campus, there are conversations you can have that can have an impact on their success.
Conversations for the First Year in College
Make your expectations known to your student, as they want to please you and show you that they can be a successful adult.
Credit card debt is a major problem that starts in college for many young people. Talk about budgets or a spending plan for your student, so that they know their limits and potential pitfalls.
Explain what you expect for grades, and set some goals with your student.
No parent wants to hear this, but it is important to talk about interpersonal relationships, safe sex and abstinence with your student.
Alcohol and Drugs
Unfortunately, underage students will have the opportunity to partake in parties where alcohol is served to them. Conversations around alcohol and drug use are respected coming from you.
Communicating with You
Set expectations for calling home, and for you calling your student. Know that they will tend to call you only during the bad times and when they need support and love. Many times, “no news is good news” is the motto to live by.
Tips on Living with a Roommate
For many parents, roommate conflicts are very difficult to deal with. Your son or daughter, whom you’ve raised for 17+ years, is clearly upset and having a difficult transition to sharing a room with another person. Following are some tips that you can use to help them sort out the situation.
- Have your student try to talk with their roommate. Students have grown up not having to share a room with someone and they are not used to having difficult conversations with others. At some point your student and their roommate filled out a Roommate Contract, which outlined the typical situations that roommates get in arguments about. Have them use this as a tool.
- Many times the issue is not actually the roommate. Students tend to blame things on the roommate when they are having a difficult time in their classes, meeting friends, or finding space to study. It is important to help your student pinpoint what is at the heart of the matter.
- Have your student talk to his/her RA. The RA is there to listen, to be a friend, and has been trained to handle all sorts of roommate conflicts. They will make sure that both roommates are heard and listened to. If the situation is too severe for the RA, the RA will make a referral to the Hall Director, who then will meet with each of the students and make a determination about what action to take in the matter.
- It is okay to call the Hall Director with concerns. In many cases, however, the Hall Director may not know about the situation, especially if it is relatively new situation or if your student has not talked to her/his RA yet. Just know that because of the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act, the Hall Director may not be able to divulge any information about the situation. They can listen to your concern, and make sure that the appropriate action is being taken by all involved parties.
- Exercise patience. It hurts you to know your student is struggling,
but roommate conflicts, just like arguments with loved ones, take time
to heal. After any action has been taken, we’ll keep following up on the
roommates to make sure that they are doing better, or we will take
additional action to resolve any further issues. We will do everything
we can to help your student have a successful year at UNC.
Here to Help your Student Succeed
Resident Assistant: RAs live on each floor, and are trained to handle all sorts of transition issues like homesickness and academic success. They know your student better than anyone else, because they live right there with them! This makes the RA a wonderful resource for your student.
Graduate Assistants: Your student should get to know these students, as they are very knowledgeable about getting involved on campus!
Hall Director: These full-time staff members live in each hall or group of halls, and they supervise the
RAs. They are the staff who jump in when there are emergencies, or when
the RA needs assistance with a difficult issue. Other areas coordinated by the Hall Director are leadership opportunities like Hall